One of my biggest fears when I had a baby was what I’d do if he had a melt down in public and I couldn’t soothe him.

Since Carter has been born, he has possibly had 2 or 3 melt downs in public. I remember the first he was perhaps 3 months old, and I was out for lunch with my mom and step dad, and one minute he was laughing the next he was screaming. No reason at all, he wasn’t hungry, I’d changed his nappy. He was tired but didn’t want to sleep. I was trying to rock him, playing his favourite lullaby…nothing. It wasn’t soothing, I was looking around seeing people stare, seeing them judge, the Pity they’d give a long with the people that you could tell would of loved to of Said “shut that baby up”

Nothing worse. It was mortifying, but then I looked at Carter and I remembered thinking, this isn’t about anybody else this is about Carter feeling relaxed so I went back to focus on my son and before I knew it he was fast asleep back in his pushchair.

Half of the people staring were probably thinking how embarrassing, poor girl. Some were wishing I’d shut him up sooner! But for anybody who’s ever judged someone for their baby crying, or even when you see parents walking and ignoring there child because they’ve throwing a tantrum, it’s got nothing to do with anybody else!!!

You deal with YOUR child the way you see fit!

If your child is being naughty and you shout, that’s your choice.

If your child is crying and wants to be held, hold them!

If your child is being disruptive and you chose to ignore, again…your choice!

I personally feel that when people stare at your crying baby it’s because they wish they’d shut up, it is loud, it’s hard to concentrate but I don’t care about you! Find something else to talk about rather than my sons tears.