When trying for a baby there’s plenty of things that everyone fails to mention…how tired you are, how often you are or aren’t sick, your emotions, cravings etc. So let’s talk about it.

My pregnancy, from the start I was sick, every day, always the same times early morning. When you need to be sick you will be, I was once sick in the street on the way to work! Embarrassing!

Cravings, I didn’t have any particular cravings through and through, one minute it was tuna sandwiches, the next it was Vimto, then it was Chinese chips and gravy! It was forever changing, something I enjoyed last week made me sick the next week!

Emotions, if anything I was a lot nicer when I was pregnant due to not wanting to stress my unborn child. I wouldn’t argue I wouldn’t raise my voice I stayed calm, other than when I was crying because I wanted food!

Kicks feel uncomfortable, for me my kicks used to keep me up at night and sometimes even hurt, used to drive me insane!

You need to wee…all the time! Your bladder is under a lot of pressure!

Next comes after birth…

Labour is scary, you will panic during but you will be fine!

Boobs. Boobs hurt…ALOT! If you decide not to breast feed. They swell and leak, I was told to put a hot flannel on not realising this made them 100 times worse! They even used to leak when carter would cry!

Your vagina hurts. Even more then your boobs! I had to have stitches so that was a pain in itself, but your body has been through a lot of trauma, you bleed for perhaps 4/5 weeks, you have to wear big horrible pants with big thick pads. Not pretty!

Weeing hurts. I don’t know if it’s just because of the stitches, but I used to cry when I weed. The only way I could wee was either in the bath or straight after a bath. Not even ashamed! You do what you gotta do!

Your belly is like jelly, it’s all squishy and may still look like you’re pregnant. It’s the strangest feeling looking down and seeing a deflated belly! You are beautiful!

You will miss parts of being pregnant. When I was pregnant I remember saying I can’t wait for this to be over, but even now I miss feeling him move and kick inside, react to my voice

You will feel bad about yourself. Your body is not what it used to be. Your boobs are different, your belly, you’ll have stretch marks in places you didn’t even know you could get them! You’ll have a baby pouch at the start, the bottom part of your belly is not as flat as it was before BUT it will go back if you work on it!

You can’t eat what you want anymore without gaining good weight! The weight you gained when you were pregnant was fun you could eat whatever you wanted. That time is over!

You can no longer get away with the excuse “I can’t I’m pregnant” I used to use this a lot, when I didn’t want to do something because I felt too lazy (although I use the I’ve had a baby excuse).

Everyone will have an opinion “don’t do this” “you’re doing it wrong” “I’d do it like this” people can give advice. But do it your way if it works! Your baby!!

You will loose friends. The amount of people that say “can’t wait to meet your baby” or make out they’ll be a huge part of your child’s life is ridiculous. People stop making effort, you won’t get invited out as much, you’ll loose friendships especially with people who don’t have children themselves they don’t understand how demanding being a parent is!

You’ll be judged, my friends, family and complete strangers. If it’s not the way they’d do something then whatever you’re doing is wrong…don’t listen to them!

Everything will be ok, you’ll learn your own methods. You’ll be the best parent to your child you possibly can be!