There is such a split on people’s opinions of parents going out after they’ve had a child. For a man, people expect to meet up to “wet the babies head” but a woman is expected to stay in and look after their child.

I’ve been criticised that I should be at home looking after my child, that I shouldn’t be out in case my baby needs me.

Wrong, after being pregnant for 38 weeks, I couldn’t wait to go out with my friends and not have to worry about what I can eat or drink, how tired I’m going to be.

Although being pregnant is such a beautiful experience, watching your baby grow, kick and hearing that heartbeat…it’s also extremely difficult. Mood swings, cravings, sickness, uncomfortable all the time, seeing your friends thin and feeling like a whale. Being to tired to even hold a conversation so not bothering to go out. It’s not even the fact you can’t have a drink, because that didn’t bother me. It was the fact that even going for food with friends killed me.

I went out 5 weeks after my son was born, and I felt a whole range of emotions, I felt fear for leaving my child, I felt upset about missing him, but I also felt excited that I didn’t have a worry…even though I worried the whole time I was out, I was constantly texting my partner to see if baby was ok!

I have been out multiple times since he’s been born, the first time is always the hardest, and yet this weekend I went away for the night for a friends birthday and I found it the most difficult. He’s slept at his grandparents a few times, so I don’t know why it upset me so much. The morning he was leaving I got upset when he laughed at me because I knew I was going to miss him. I thought each time I was away from him it would get easier but it doesn’t. I worry he will miss me, cry, not settle or need Me, but he was completely fine at his grandads, my dad sent me videos of him laughing at his favourite nursery rhyme (5 little ducks) and he slept through all night. As soon as he saw me when I picked him up he was so happy, which made me extremely happy!

Happy parents, happy baby. This saying I truly do believe, I think you should have a social life and a family life, you don’t have to go out every weekend and get in a state, but you also don’t have to stay in every weekend. You’re aloud to have fun you’re still a person not just a parent!

I love spending time with my son, with my family in general. But I also love dressing up and going out and having fun!

Just because you’re a parent, doesn’t mean you are no longer aloud to have fun!